I told a dejected
friend that “life is not how people look at you but it is how
you look at yourself”. He was dejected after being criticized by his boss for
not competent and so forth and getting a poor rating for his appraisal for
being “young” and not able to perform his duty as what expected from him.
Coincidentally
this morning, there was a report on the Stars saying that employers consider
fresh graduates as liabilities and would prefer to hire experienced and skilled
professionals who can bring instant returns.
We all have gone through the process
in a working life. We were all young before and joined a company with a paper
qualification but with limited skills and knowledge but over the years acquired
the skills and other requirements to be a competent worker, earning our living.
But it doesn’t mean that everything will be a smooth sailing process. You may
be thinking that with a degree in hand, you can accomplish a lot of things in
your life and rise up to the rank, sitting up at a high position in a company
and earning big money.
Sometimes, there are so many twists and turns come along
the way and you need to bow a bit if the pressure is too great, just like
bamboo, when the winds are strong, they bow but when the winds are over, they
get straightened back. Just be resilient and the difficult moment will be over.
A
poor rating by your boss probably mean that you would not get a good bonus or
increment but it should not affect your internal peace. Come on mate, even
your parents will have some preferences on your brother or sister so what more
you expect from your boss?
As my friend was so down with the comments said by
his boss, I then told him that “life is not how people look at you but how you
look at yourself”. We bound to come across many challenges in working life.
Your boss may not like you, or your colleagues hate you or your students wrote
something bad about you. All these can demoralize a person but we need to keep our
conscience clear that so long that we are not doing anything wrong, such
adverse comments, criticisms, gossiping and so forth should not disturb our
inner peace.
I advised him to go for a movie over the weekend and recommended
him to watch the Avengers and hoping that he could gain some strength after
seeing how the superhero settling down their differences and ego to save the
world. I told him even the Prime Minister was also receiving some sarcastic
reception from Bersih supporters during his working visit to England and
what more the ordinary guys like you and me could expect? Don’t be so silly to
expect everyone will like you even though you have done your part 100%.
We do
not have the capability to please everyone but at least we can please ourselves
by not being disturbed by all these nuisances created by other people.